Love and Assertiveness are two sides of the same coin; one necessitates and depends on the other. Loving yourself requires asserting your rights to liberty and the pursuit of happiness. Loving a partner requires assertiveness in creating and protecting an environment of honesty and communication.… Read the rest
We have been using the slavery analogy to support the validity of the Non-Aggression Principle. In a serious oversight by the writers here at NAP Parenting, we assumed that because that particular debate was over, we could use it as precedent to pursue the rights of children next.… Read the rest
Some Jehovah’s Witnesses came to my door and opened the conversation with, “What’s the most important gift you can give some one?”
“Easy,” I thought. “The truth.”
“Interesting,” the young woman said, “we haven’t heard that one before.”
I can’t say I was genuinely surprised; it’s not a very popular subject.… Read the rest
What does it mean to follow the NAP?
Simple! Just don’t aggress against people or their property.
Oh great! I already do that, most of the time.
Oh? What about the other times?
Well, I’ll admit, sometimes I steal people’s wallets in dark alleys (spank my kid).… Read the rest
Students of psychology, specifically operant conditioning (think B.F. Skinner), understand that punishment is a stimulus, or aversive event, that occurs after a behavior and that reduces the likelihood of that behavior occurring again in the future. In short, punishment weakens or decreases a behavior.… Read the rest
We’ve been grappling with the issue of rewards for years. They seem straightforward, helpful, and obvious to us, but we often meet criticism, specifically by readers of Alfie Kohn. His voice is the strongest of the few researchers who assert that rewards, even verbal, should be abandoned; that they damage “intrinsic motivation” by turning the activity into something that is motivated only by an outside reinforcer.… Read the rest
What distinguishes the NAP parenting paradigm from other parenting styles?
All of these concepts are rooted in the non-aggression principle; with respect for the person and property first. We’ll expand on these points in more detail in other posts.
Private Property: Everything in the home is privately owned, and that ownership is unambiguous.… Read the rest
- Power corrupts.
- The most power over anyone that the average person will ever have is their power over their children.
- Liberty, voluntaryism is the antidote to corruption.
- Liberty is defined and safeguarded by moral codes; the non-aggression principle.
Conclusion: In order for us to protect our children, we must recognize our inherent and vast power over them, and its natural potential to corrupt our treatment of them.… Read the rest
Don’t tell me what to do. Aren’t you violating my right to choose?
We aren’t telling people what to do. The NAP isn’t a mandate backed by force (like a law). It’s an ethical framework that determines which actions are immoral, but the choice is yours.… Read the rest
Aren’t ethics ultimately subjective? Are we just picking the principles that we like? Shouldn’t we encourage individuals to find their own relative truth and ethics?
Ethics, or moral principles, are those principles concerned with Right and Wrong behavior.
Many people assume that what’s right for one person may not be right for another, and therefor claim that ethics are relative.… Read the rest