NAP Parenting (often referred to as Peaceful Parenting) is a style of parenting that adheres to the Non-Aggression Principle.

The NAP is an ethical stance which asserts that “aggression” is inherently illegitimate or immoral. Aggression is defined as the initiation of force against persons or property, the threat of such, or fraud upon persons or their property.

We aim to make the case for adopting this moral framework, and then focus on discussing its applications within the family.

We invite you to submit comments and criticisms to all of our posts in hopes that we can better each other and the lives of all children through honest conversation.

The case for NAP Parenting (in one page)

Here you’ll find our ‘manifesto’, a condensed argument for the NAP and its use in the home. A good place to start for newcomers.

Recent Posts

Fines and Fees in a Voluntary System?

Sometimes an agreement just can’t be made. You’ve insisted that the child refold the stack of laundry that she pulled down into a pile, and she’s just not going to do it. In fact, she’s already run out to play, and you either step over ...
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Stealing Wallets (Spanking); A Common Conversation

What does it mean to follow the NAP? Simple! Just don’t aggress against people or their property. Oh great! I already do that, most of the time. Oh? What about the other times?  Well, I’ll admit, sometimes I steal people’s wallets in dark alleys (spank ...
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Trick-Or-Treating the NAP Parenting Way

Here we’ll share how we use three important tools of NAP Parenting: negotiation, the idea of strict property rights, and contracts, to make sure that trick-or-treating is not a one-way ticket to the dentist. There are other concerns around the holiday, like safety, but we’ll ...
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A Survey of Grown Unschoolers

Work from Peter Gray, a prominent researcher of homeschooling and un-schooling ...
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The Tuttle Twins Learn About The Law – Connor Boyack

“Life, liberty, and property do not exist because men have made laws. On the contrary, it was the fact that life, liberty, and property existed beforehand that caused men to make laws in the first place.” - Frédéric Bastiat This review focuses on our favorite ...
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Punishment: What Is It? And Why Is It A Dirty Word?

Students of psychology, specifically operant conditioning (think B.F. Skinner), understand that punishment is a stimulus, or aversive event, that occurs after a behavior and that reduces the likelihood of that behavior occurring again in the future. In short, punishment weakens or decreases a behavior. “Positive” ...
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A Theory on Why Teen Depression and Anxiety Are Skyrocketing

I guess "Public schools are killing our children!" is a little too click-baity? ...
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This Just In: Reinforcers Reinforce Behavior! (A Summary of Our Research On Rewards, Contracts, and Praise)

We’ve been grappling with the issue of rewards for years. They seem straightforward, helpful, and obvious to us, but we often meet criticism, specifically by readers of Alfie Kohn. His voice is the strongest of the few researchers who assert that rewards, even verbal, should ...
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We are a small group of writers, educators, and parents who are dedicated to living and spreading the NAP in homes around the world.

This issue effects people of all races, genders, and socio-economic statuses. We’ve all been children, and everyone’s childhood greatly influences their adulthood. Imagine a generation raised without being yelled at, stolen from, and hit by the people they love and depend on. Fortunately, this is a movement that we can all affect today, because it starts at home and among the families we’re already connected to.

We need your help. Please join us in the current frontier of the age-old fight for basic human rights for all people. We’re fighting for the group that can not fight for themselves, and whose lives we have the most control over. Join the conversation! We need your best arguments (for and against), and most passionate public efforts to create the groundswell of popular opinion that ends the acceptance of aggression toward children for good.