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What Is The Truth, Anyway?

What Is The Truth, Anyway?

Some Jehovah’s Witnesses came to my door and opened the conversation with, “What’s the most important gift you can give some one?” “Easy,” I thought. “The truth.” “Interesting,” the young woman said, “we haven’t heard that one before.” I can’t say I was genuinely surprised; it’s not a very popular subject. This is where the world is, philosophically. You can make it your job to visit people’s homes and ask such an important question, and never get this answer. We…

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The Passive-Aggressive Cycle or: How to Disapprove Without Bullying

The Passive-Aggressive Cycle or: How to Disapprove Without Bullying

Does your five-year-old run up and punch you in the gut instead of saying “Hello”? Does your daughter insist that she can only eat dinner while watching television? Do the cookies hidden on the top shelf disappear much quicker than you dole them out? We assume the majority of readers here are not the militaristic authoritarian type, quick to crack the whip and bark orders. Most of the parents we meet spend too much time on the opposite end of…

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Talking to Your Child After You Yell. How Yelling Can Hurt, and How to Stop It

Talking to Your Child After You Yell. How Yelling Can Hurt, and How to Stop It


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Some good tips from experts for anybody who yells at their children. Deep breathing, “I” statements. We find, as usual, the moral argument is the true antidote. It’s wrong to yell at your kids, it’s harmful to their health, and we don’t have the right to harm them like that. So, study the solutions to yelling if you need to, or simply commit to not yelling. If you can really internalize the behavior as Wrong, then this article is like…

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How to Get Your Kids to Listen and Engage | Kris Prochaska

How to Get Your Kids to Listen and Engage | Kris Prochaska

You can see how far we have to go, when even the notion of equality with children is so hard to talk about. Ms. Prochaska gets it, although we didn’t find much more on the topic on her blog.

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ChangingMinds.org

ChangingMinds.org

A great site for learning the art of persuasion and influence. If we’re going to have a successful movement, winning hearts and minds is imperative. Here’s an excerpt regarding using praise with children: The danger of praise It is very easy to get praise wrong. Here are a few ways that praise can unexpectedly demotivate people. Ability vs. effort Mueller and Dweck (1998) gave 400 children a test and then told each that they had got 80% right. They then…

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Father’s rejection may increase child’s social anxiety, loneliness

Father’s rejection may increase child’s social anxiety, loneliness

New research from Penn State. http://news.psu.edu/story/497338/2017/12/13/research/father’s-rejection-may-increase-child’s-social-anxiety-loneliness

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Slapping children works, they say!

Slapping children works, they say!

Our response? Doesn’t matter, still unethical. This is the power of the moral argument, folks. It has to be prioritized over the argument for effect. How many studies on spanking do we need to read? None. Do we need to be doctors of child development, or experts on the effects of spanking? No. Can you support this movement in your personal life, with whatever credentials you currently have? Absolutely.

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You Can’t Take What’s Already Earned

You Can’t Take What’s Already Earned

So many of these tips simply require imagining a role reversal. To put yourself in the child’s shoes, just picture whoever is an authority/provider to you. For most of us, this is our boss. They tell us what to do, we do it, and then we get paid. We often use the analogy of “the boss” to compare the parent-child relationship. When condemning spanking, we say “What if your boss hit you because he didn’t like how you did the…

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Trends in childhood violence and abuse exposure (2 national surveys)

Trends in childhood violence and abuse exposure (2 national surveys)

Was just reading that “The reason most frequently given (by 49% of parents) for limiting outdoor play was, “They may be in danger of child predators””. The data gives us a very different picture, as violence and abuse prevalence continues to drop. And proponents of spanking are proving to be on the wrong side of history. The world is becoming gentler to children, and the trend will soon reach a tipping point, when aggression to children is no longer something…

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