NAP Parenting (often referred to as Peaceful Parenting) is a style of parenting that adheres to the Non-Aggression Principle.
The NAP is an ethical stance which asserts that “aggression” is inherently illegitimate or immoral. Aggression is defined as the initiation of force against persons or property, the threat of such, or fraud upon persons or their property.
We aim to make the case for adopting this moral framework, and then focus on discussing its applications within the family.
We invite you to submit comments and criticisms to all of our posts in hopes that we can better each other and the lives of all children through honest conversation.
The case for NAP Parenting (in one page)
Here you’ll find our ‘manifesto’, a condensed argument for the NAP and its use in the home. A good place to start for newcomers.
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We have been using the slavery analogy to support the validity of the Non-Aggression Principle. In a serious oversight by the writers here at NAP Parenting, we assumed that because that particular debate was over, we could use it as precedent to pursue the rights ...Read More
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Hopefully it goes without saying that when it comes to acts of physical aggression towards children, you wont find much more severe and socially accepted than circumcision ...Read More
Some Jehovah’s Witnesses came to my door and opened the conversation with, “What’s the most important gift you can give some one?” “Easy,” I thought. “The truth.” “Interesting,” the young woman said, “we haven’t heard that one before.” I can’t say I was genuinely surprised; ...Read More
Does your five-year-old run up and punch you in the gut instead of saying “Hello”? Does your daughter insist that she can only eat dinner while watching television? Do the cookies hidden on the top shelf disappear much quicker than you dole them out? We ...Read More
Some good tips from experts for anybody who yells at their children. Deep breathing, "I" statements. We find, as usual, the moral argument is the true antidote. It's wrong to yell at your kids, it's harmful to their health, and we don't have the right ...Read More
We are a small group of writers, educators, and parents who are dedicated to living and spreading the NAP in homes around the world.
This issue effects people of all races, genders, and socio-economic statuses. We’ve all been children, and everyone’s childhood greatly influences their adulthood. Imagine a generation raised without being yelled at, stolen from, and hit by the people they love and depend on. Fortunately, this is a movement that we can all affect today, because it starts at home and among the families we’re already connected to.
We need your help. Please join us in the current frontier of the age-old fight for basic human rights for all people. We’re fighting for the group that can not fight for themselves, and whose lives we have the most control over. Join the conversation! We need your best arguments (for and against), and most passionate public efforts to create the groundswell of popular opinion that ends the acceptance of aggression toward children for good.