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Month: November 2017

My Stint at a “Democratic” School – A Horror Story

My Stint at a “Democratic” School – A Horror Story

I had been a teacher for five years, and I was weary of the coercion inherent within the public school system. If a student didn’t want to learn, I tried to find engaging methods to draw him in. At first it was exciting. As a student teacher, I had designed lessons around a 6th grader in a hypothetical science class who only wanted to draw dragons. I suggested assignments on the history of dragons, the chemistry of breathing fire, the…

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Giving (Reasonable) Choices

Giving (Reasonable) Choices

Here’s a tip that most parenting books and experts recommend, but which is often perverted, like anything, when not grounded in an ethical framework. The idea is to give children choices, which allows them to enjoy some autonomy. For example, when a child is avoiding bedtime, instead of making demands or punishing, we say “How many more minutes would you like?” or, if it’s time to eat, we ask, “What part of the meal would you like to start with,…

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Fines and Fees in a Voluntary System?

Fines and Fees in a Voluntary System?

Sometimes an agreement just can’t be made. You’ve insisted that the child refold the stack of laundry that she pulled down into a pile, and she’s just not going to do it. In fact, she’s already run out to play, and you either step over the mess in the hallway, or clean up after her. You might be thinking “So, the logical consequence is what? Take her clothes away? Take her bed away since she doesn’t respect the sheets? That’s…

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Stealing Wallets (Spanking); A Common Conversation

Stealing Wallets (Spanking); A Common Conversation

What does it mean to follow the NAP? Simple! Just don’t aggress against people or their property. Oh great! I already do that, most of the time. Oh? What about the other times?  Well, I’ll admit, sometimes I steal people’s wallets in dark alleys (spank my kid). But you know, I try to follow it in general. Oh, well, you’re failing. You’re not following it. Well I am actually. Day in and day out, I’m very well behaved. But sometimes,…

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